"Your value is not determined by how quickly you respond to messages..."
Written by Dear Black Woman Julie Cruz
dear j,
just a reminder that
your value
is not determined by
how quickly you respond to messages
how frequently you pick up calls
how much you interact on social media
how much you Snapchat, IG, WhatsApp, whatever
I mean,
how fucking exhausting and unsustainable
is that measure?
rather;
your energy in someone's presence,
the warmth you emit through twinkling eyes
the boisterousness of your laugh
the support that you give in the form of warm words, "I love you’s", warm meals, and a bed to sleep in
these are hallmarks of your worth,
which is immeasurable
you must believe this.
“Your energy in someone’s presence, the warmth you emit through twinkling eyes. The boisterousness of your laugh. The support that you give in the form of warm words, “I love you’s”, warm meals, and a bed to sleep in. These are hallmarks of your worth, which is immeasurable.”
not in these back-and-forth screen games
that other people wanna play
you must refuse
to checkmark your relationships
to follow if:then rules about how you should receive love:
if you do X; you will be loved
if you do not; you will be abandoned
fuck that.
relationships are not a check list.
reciprocated love is not an algorithm you can crack.
you must believe that the people who love you,
love you for your presence and energy,
for what you give in time and attention and devotion,
not for quick quotas met on a screen.
check that.
peace,
j
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